list of common rp things you never need to worry about when you’re rping with me:
if i like our plot – i have never feigned interest in a plot. i’d tell you if i wasn’t feeling the plot you pitched. also, i honestly do not go and make posts for plots i’m not interested in. i like being super invested in my ships and i feel like the best way to do that is to be honest about it from the get go.
not replying fast enough – life is tough, friends. i totally get it. sometimes we don’t have the muse for a thread, sometimes we’re in a bad place mentally and we really just can’t with life, or we’re busy with school or work. shh, you don’t owe me anything. post when able, fam. i don’t drop threads without a warning!
if you think you’re bothering me with headcanons, asks and etc – STOP RIGHT THERE. you are NOT bothering me with those at all. i live for those so KEEP THEM COMING.
if you want more plots/ships – TELL ME. chances are i want them too!
your post length – your post length really doesn’t bother me – i can get pretty wordy sometimes and honestly i don’t expect people to match me. doesn’t matter if i get a one paragraph reply to a three paragraph one, as long as there’s something to reply to, you know? substance over length any day.
if you want to drop a plot – my feelings don’t get hurt over things like this. tell me if you wanna drop a plot and let’s make a new one if you’re interested, if not then that’s fine too!
if you have a headcanon/plot you think is too dark – tell me ANYWAY? honestly i don’t have a lot of hard limits and i’ve been on the internet so long that at this point it takes a LOT to scare me. creative freedom is also pretty great, so.
that being said,
i’m really crap at replying to ims on tumblr! – i have the worst attention span on the planet, and sometimes tumblr hates me so sometimes i don’t get the tumblr chat im pop ups – it’s the weirdest thing ever but i could get messages and i wouldn’t know until i check tumblr on my phone? (but then sometimes three or four days have gone by and oops.) i’m always on telegram tho, so if you have it, and you’d like mine, feel free to drop me an ask and i’ll get to you on there instead!
sometimes i can be in a pretty bad place muse wise too – and it’s definitely not you. i’ll most likely still be sending headcanons and doing ask memes in a rather sad bid to get myself out of that funk but yeah. sometimes it’ll take a few days for me to reply to a thread. i’ll tell you if i want to drop it, though.
i like making friends – so if you wanna talk about things that aren’t about our ships, that’d be pretty awesome too!
i get super invested in my ships – and i will probably bother you with asks and headcanons A LOT and i understand this can get annoying especially on days where we’re not really feeling rp, so just tell me if you wanna talk about other things, yes? c:
god i’m super chill and i hate fighting – rp is supposed to be fun, and though i’ve never actually really fought with anyone in rp land, i know many of my friends have, and i just can’t with that so. yeah.
i think that’s it, really? i see so many posts by new rpers going around like, ‘ugh the rpc intimidates me’ and i’m just…come over here let me love you. so if you have a plot you want to do, don’t be shy and just hit me up, yes? i don’t bite!
your self-worth is not based on how pretty you are, how skinny you are, how curvy, how smooth your skin is, how tall, how big your lips are;
your worth is no less than infinite – you are worth the world, the whole universe, you are worth every star up in that sky
your self-worth is not based on how good your grades are, how good you are at maths, english, science – a test result, a single mark on a piece of paper does not define you, you are so much more than that;
your worth is no less than infinite – you are worth the world, the whole universe, you are worth every star up in that sky
your self-worth is not based on what type of phone you have, what brand of clothes you wear, your bag, your shoes, your jewellery – none of that matters, you are beautiful no matter what you are wearing
your worth is no less than infinite – you are worth the world, the whole universe, you are worth every star up in that sky
your self-worth is not based on your mental health, whether or not you have any struggles or mental health issues that you must face every day – you are amazing for getting through this far, and you will recover and you will learn to love yourself again if you have lost that
your worth is no less than infinite – you are worth the world, the whole universe, you are worth every star up in that sky
try your best to remember that, no matter what
your worth is no less than infinite – you are worth the world, the whole universe, you are worth every star up in that sky
I love when people are genuinely excited about our plots/ships. I love when I’m not the only one who’s like “!!!” I love it. @ my partners you will literally never annoy me by being overly excited about our ships I love it so much.
From all appearances, the president and first lady Melania Trump were warmly welcomed by Rabbi Jeffrey Myers — unlike the mayor, the county administrator, the governor, several tens of thousands of people who signed an open letter telling Trump he was “not welcome in Pittsburgh until you fully denounce white nationalism,” and many hundreds of residents who staged a decidedly not-small protest a few blocks from his motorcade.
“This didn’t happen in a vacuum,” said Ardon Shorr, one of about 100 people who had jammed a street corner several blocks from the synagogue an hour before Trump’s plane landed. “There is a growing trend of white nationalism. And that has been enabled by Trump, who traffics in the kind of conspiracy theories that we know were foremost in the mind of the shooter last Saturday.”
By the time Air Force One arrived at Pittsburgh International Airport, the protest had swelled to about 2,000 people.
The demonstration had been organized at the last minute, as had Trump’s visit: The White House had not announced until late Monday that he would be visiting Pittsburgh — despite a request from the mayor and some Jewish leaders that he not do so until the shooting victims had been interred and mourned.
Ugh, don’t make fun of people if they couldn’t spell a word correctly/made a grammar mistake. If you really feel the need to correct it, do so politely.
They had the courage to post what they wrote online and you go and tear it down? What the hell is wrong with you.
general psa that i will NEVER be upset with you for taking forever/never answering something i send you
we all have lives outside of this and muses are fickle like, i get it and i never want anyone to be afraid that i’d hold it against them like if i send you a meme and you’re not feeling it? you don’t need to answer it
if we plot something and i make a starter and you’re not feeling it anymore? that’s okay too. even if halfway through a thread it feels like it’s going nowhere so you wanna drop it? that’s 100% okay
honestly? you don’t even need to let me know you’re dropping something/not answering something like im not here to pressure you or bug you about replies and i don’t care if you’re actively writing with other people or anything, like if you’re not interested in writing something with me i won’t take it personally
and even if you don’t want to drop something and take literal months to answer? that’s chill like me too okay
and all i ask is that you extend the same courtesy to me ❤
This is a reminder that just because it’s the holidays, it doesn’t mean you have to put up with toxic relatives.
You don’t have to sit and listen to Old Granny Racist
You don’t have to sit and listen to Misogynistic Male Members of the Family
You don’t have to sit and listen to Homophobic Aunt Martha and Inappropriate Joke Making Cousin Steve.
You don’t have to let That One Aunt make snide comments about your weight/lack of weight or let That One Uncle look at you weird.
You don’t have to let your siblings torment you and then laugh it off because “we’re family, chill out”
You don’t have to sit and let others make you feel uncomfortable/oppressed/awful about yourself/in valid/anything else just because it’s the holidays.
Your mental and emotional health is more important than whether or not you’re there to hear the ridiculously hypocritical prayer that gets said once a year by someone who would have no issue disowning you if they ever found out how you identify.
YOU are more important than that.
You are more important than a family gathering, and if it’s horrible to go then DONT GO. Drink your pumpkin spice latte and eat your box of cookies alone in your own apartment/dorm/room or go out with friends or take a trip or whatever.
Do something other than putting yourself through all that ick. The holidays are just dates on a calender and family is just people. Don’t jeopardize yourself for the sake of a “tradition”.
Ruby Bridges was the first black child to desegregate the all-white William Frantz Elementary School in Louisiana during the New Orleans school desegregation crisis in 1960.
This movie made me cry, I was so heart broken by how Ruby Bridges was treated! She was only 6, but was so strong. She is a very brave girl and she did not care what the white folks called her.
People are simply disgusting to minimize people by skin color!
Ruby you might not think you’re a hero… But to other people you are! You are A HERO and you are A PERSON WHO MADE AMERICA CHANGE!
this is white culture, this is their history, this is their legacy…being enraged at a damn baby just because she’s black.
she’s still alive by the way
Ruby Bridges in 2010
“As Bridges describes it, “Driving up I could see the crowd, but living in New Orleans, I actually thought it was Mardi Gras. There was a large crowd of people outside of the school. They were throwing things and shouting, and that sort of goes on in New Orleans at Mardi Gras.“ Former United States Deputy Marshal Charles Burks later recalled, “She showed a lot of courage. She never cried. She didn’t whimper. She just marched along like a little soldier, and we’re all very very proud of her.“
U.S. Marshals escorted Bridges to and from school
As soon as Bridges entered the school, white parents pulled their own children out; all the teachers refused to teach while a black child was enrolled. Only one person agreed to teach Ruby and that was Barbara Henry, from Boston, Massachusetts, and for over a year Henry taught her alone, “as if she were teaching a whole class.”
Every morning, as Bridges walked to school, one woman would threaten to poison her; because of this, the U.S. Marshals dispatched by President Eisenhower, who were overseeing her safety, allowed Ruby to eat only the food that she brought from home.
Another woman at the school put a black baby doll in a wooden coffin and protested with it outside the school, a sight that Bridges Hall has said “scared me more than the nasty things people screamed at us.” At her mother’s suggestion, Bridges began to pray on the way to school, which she found provided protection from the comments yelled at her on the daily walks.”
THIS SHIT WAS ONLY 58 YEARS AGO. PEOPLE WHO PARTICIPATED IN THIS RACIST TERRORISM AND ACTS LIKE IT ARE STILL ALIVE, AND THEIR KIDS ARE IN THEIR 40′S AND 50′S.
DON’T LET RACISM APOLOGISTS GET AWAY WITH “WHY ARE YOU LIVING IN THE PAST,” BULLSHIT ARGUMENTS. WE ARE LITERALLY STILL DEALING WITH THE FAMILIES THAT FORMED HATE MOBS OVER BLACK CHILDREN ATTENDING SCHOOL WITH WHITE KIDS.
The tenth anniversary of the OTW and all the AO3 discussion going around this week inspired me to go look at astolat’s original post about creating an An Archive Of Our Own, and found my comment on it:
“I think this is needed and long past needed.
There are of course huge fanfic archives out there like ff.net, but the bigger and more public the site, the more restrictive it is, the more stuff around the edges gets cut off. I don’t WANT the public face of fanfic to be only the most easily palatable stuff, with the smut and the kink and the controversial subjects marginalized and hidden under the table.
And I particularly don’t want to see us all sitting around feeling frustrated while this fabulous community is commodified out from underneath us.
I’m not fit to be a project manager, but I’m great with details and general organizational work. If someone takes this and runs with it, I’d love to help.“
Eleven years and rather a lot of volunteer-hours later, I stand by every single word.
And then I found my original post on the idea that became the OTW/AO3, which says in part:
“However, as I was reading the comments over there, I noticed a frustrating, but not surprising number of comments along the lines of “well, it’s a good idea, but it’s way too ambitious”
I’m not talking about the really useful and practical comments bringing up pitfalls and difficulties to be aware of from the get go with something this massive and complex, I’m talking about all the comments that go something like this:
Taken separately, these comments don’t seem like much, but every time a new one showed up I couldn’t help but be reminded of
this post by commodorified, and her oh so brilliant and beautiful rant therein:
“WOMEN NEED TO LEARN TO ASK FOR EVERY DAMN THING THEY WANT.
And here are some notes:
Yes, you. Yes, everything. Yes, even that.
All of it. Because it’s true. We’re mostly raised to live on table scraps, to wait and see what’s going when everyone else has been served and then choose from what’s left. And that’s crap, and it’ll get you crap.
Forget the limited menu of things that you automatically assume is all that’s available given your (gender, looks, social class, education, financial position, reputation, family, damage level, etc etc etc), and start reading the whole menu instead.
Then figure out what you want. Then check what you’ve got and figure out how to get it. And then go after it baldheaded till either you make it happen or you decide that its real cost is more than it’s worth to you.”
And THAT is what Astolat’s post is about. It’s about saying “THIS is what we want, let’s make it happen.” It’s about aiming for the ideal, not for some artificially imposed, more “realistic” option.
And I think that’s fabulous. And I think we CAN do this, we CAN make this amazing, complicated idea happen. But in order to do so we’re going to have to be careful about those little voices inside our heads saying “well, it’s a nice idea, but” and “there’s no point in trying for that impossible thing, let’s aim for this ‘more realistic’ goal instead.”
Because, damn it, why shouldn’t we ask for every damn thing we want. And why shouldn’t we go out there and get it?”
I am so pleased to have been proved correct.
(And also, in the category of “women need to ask for every damn thing they want”? I took those words to heart, which is one of many reasons Marna/commodorified and I have been married for going on eight years.)
ETA: I know some of the links are broken, they copied over from my original post and I didn’t have the energy to either delete them or track them down elsewhere.
Asking for it and doing it!!!
So inspiring. And yes – at the time this seemed such a pipedream, but look at it now!
Yup. I remember saying I’d support it regardless, but it would only really be useful to me as a poster if it allowed every kind of content. Heh.
God this brings it back. People saying we couldn’t do it, that we would never be able to do it, etc. And then there was the sort of six months later moment where people were like, but where is it? (!) Dudes, we had to found a nonprofit company first! so we could be legal and raise money and pay taxes and have a bank account and enter contracts – and moreover, the archive was written from scratch: from a single blinking cursor on the screen, custom-designed from the ground up. I remember that I had the job of tracking wireframes in the early days as the real designers figured out how the flow of pages in the archive were going to go. Amazing.
Anyway, I want to say that the group that came together around the OTW /AO3 in those first years had a track record like WHOA: so many of those people had been archivists, web-admins, fannish fest-runners, newsletter compilers, community moderators, listmoms (kiddies, you won’t know what this is) or had other fannish roles that gave them enormous experience in working collaboratively in fandom and keeping something great going year after year. And OTW continues to attract great people–and so also, while I’m blathering, let me say that volunteering for the OTW also provides great, real world experience that you can put on your resume, because AO3 is one of the top sites in the world and TWC has been publishing on time for ten years and Fanlore is cited in books and journalism all the time and Open Doors has relationships with many meatspace university libraries and archives etc. so if you think you have something to bring to the table, please do think about volunteering somewhere. It’s work, believe me, but it’s also pretty g-d awesome.
And THAT is what Astolat’s post is about. It’s about saying “THIS is what we want, let’s make it happen.” It’s about aiming for the ideal, not for some artificially imposed, more “realistic” option.
I want to pull this out for a second because I have in fact generally spent much of my life aiming for big unrealistic goals, very few of which I’ve actually achieved, and many of which I didn’t actually want by the time I got close to them.
The thing about aiming for “unrealistic” goals is that the work you do to achieve those goals doesn’t disappear even if you don’t achieve the goal. We still haven’t accomplished everything on our giant AO3 wishlist. There remains plenty of work to be done (and the OTW and the amazing current team working on the AO3 can always use more help, as Cesperanza says!)
But because we collectively threw ourselves at this project, there is an archive, and it’s not just good, it’s better than anything else out there. ❤
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