i can! but just an fyi, i don’t actually watch that much anime, and i haven’t watched most of the classics! so these are just like, my personal favorites ^.^ (in no particular order)
(also i split it into anime shows and anime movies, so it’ll be easier ^.^)
anime shows:
clannad
ok, i said in no particular order, but this is definitely one of my all time favorites. the beginning is really slow, i’ll admit, but it’s absolutely lovely and touching and complicated (especially in the second season) and i can’t recommend this enough! it focuses a lot on family and i LOVE the main characters and it’s just so so so beautiful! (warning: i’ve never in my life cried as much as i did while watching this anime, so be prepared)
NANA
really good! very mature and complicated and the art is really cool. again, it made me cry quite a lot but i’m a crier haha so it might not say much :’) either way it’s a really unique anime and i really recommend it!
wotakoi: love is hard for an otaku
okay this one is super silly and fun! and the best part about it is that it’s super self aware! i was laughing and smiling a lot while watching this, so if you’re looking for a feel good anime, this one is a good choice 🙂
gakuen babysitters
another feel good anime! just… watch it. it’s so cute. you’ll die. on the spot. just like that. (i still managed to cry a few times though haha)
yuri on ice
i mean… do i really need to say anything?is there anyone on this planet who hasn’t seen it yet? gosh i just love it so much, this anime was such a big blessing and i hope it’ll open the door to more respectful, well thought out queer stories in anime :’)
your lie in april
do you love gorgeous animation? do you love beautiful, touching music? do you love crying your eyes out? if so, this anime might be the right one for you! i’ll be honest, i personally liked the best friend character more than the main girl, and the story had a tendency for melodrama, but it was still really beautiful and touching and made me sob for a week straight :”)
number 6
okay i’ve heard mixed reviews about this one, but i personally really liked it! the characters and the setting were interesting and the relationship between the two mains was touching and sweet and caring and i really enjoyed it 🙂
kokoro conect
this one is a bit weird, but i really liked it! the concept is really cool and original (in my opinion) and the characters are interesting 🙂
ao haru ride
this is a very typical high school romance story, ngl, but it’s one of the first ones i’ve seen so it has a special place in my heart :”) it’s sweet and the animation is beautiful and the characters are likable. i also like that it talks a lot about friendship, maybe even more than romantic love, which is usually something i really appreciate in a story :”) so i won’t say it’s the best thing in the world- but it’s definitely fun to watch if you’re in a romantic mood!
free!
okay. i know. shut up. this is MY list and i’m ALLOWED to like things hvgergetgtrer. it’s all dan and phil’s fault anyways!! but honestly this anime is so addicting, run, run while you can
kids on the slope
perfect perfect perfect. just… perfect. 11/10 might be the best thing i’ve ever watched. everything about this was amazing- the characters, the story, the animation, the music. everything! like i said before, i love stories that focus around deep friendships and relationships, and this was exactly that! the friendship between the two mains was so touching and sweet and loving and they cared so deeply for each other, they helped each other develop and they were always there for each other and just… ugh, so beautiful. i have no idea why this is not more popular but honestly people are missing out
kamisama hjimemashita
okay i’m putting this one down as a guilty pleasure lol. i will be lying if i’ll say it’s the best there is, it’s really not, but for some reason it stuck with me haha. it’s fun, it’s cute, it’s romantic. that’s about it.
anime movies:
(disclaimer: i won’t be adding any movies by studio ghibli, simply because they are all great and hayao miyazaki is probably the person i look up to most in life, so it wouldn’t be fair to all the other great movies haha)
into the forest of fireflies
beautiful, sad, sweet. a really good watch :’)
wolf children
one of my favorite movies. ever. not even just animated. it’s so good.i don’t even know how to describe it. it’s so gentle and gorgeous and caring and deals with such delicate subjects in such a respectful way. just… watch it. it’s a must in my opinion
doukyuusei
this one. my goodness. this is what i wish more queer movies would be like. a casual exploration of affection and relationship and sexual attraction. even if you don’t like anime you should give this one a watch. the animation is BEAUTIFUL (you can fight me on this!!) it’s a bit different than what we usually see so it takes a few minutes to get used to, but honestly i think it’s unique in the best way!
kimi no na wa
okay i know people talked about this one to death, so i’ll just say this: i had really high expectations for this one in it didn’t disappoint!! (and i CAN’T stress this enough: the animation is so beautiful you might start crying just from looking at it)
a silent voice
i’m pretty sure you at least heard about this one as well! i really liked it, it had a heavy subject and i felt like they did a good job portraying it! should definitely give this one a watch if you haven’t 🙂 (it’s not the easiest one to watch, honestly i was quite shaken up after it, even though the ending is quite optimistic, so you should check trigger tags for it in my opinion ^.^)
and… that’s it! at least the ones i could think about ^.^ hope you’ll like at least some on them anon!
I’m so fascinated by Luke’s arc in The Last Jedi and the negative response to it because the latter reveals so much about the former.
Luke’s true failure is not that he tried to kill his nephew. Because he didn’t. Igniting his saber over Ben “and for the briefest of moments” believing that it’s possible for him to save those he loves from destruction is a moment of weakness, and Luke comes breathtakingly close to falling into the darkness of killing a defenseless boy who up to this point has done nothing wrong. But he doesn’t fall. The moment passes and he doesn’t kill him. He conquers the temptation because he understands the horror of that potential action and wants no part of it. Everyone is right. Luke Skywalker would never and could never kill his nephew. And he doesn’t!! do it!!
Now the tragedy of this (and honestly the reason that so many people interpret this moment as Luke Skywalker’s actual Fall) is that the timing of Luke’s moment of weakness, and even more pertinently the timing of the moment he actually overcomes the temptation of the dark side like the good man that he still is, literally could not have been worse. Ben wakes up, sees his uncle looming over him, (completely understandably) assumes the worst, and responds instantly with violence and passion. The tragedy isn’t that Luke tried to kill his nephew; it’s that his nephew thought he did. The results of this moment for Ben- though founded on an incomplete and skewed understanding of the situation- are the same as if that understanding had been the whole truth. The trauma is as real and and as damaging, the chain of events set in motion by this moment as catastrophically heartbreaking as if Luke really did try to kill his student, his nephew, while he was literally defenseless and sleeping.
But the damage done to Ben Solo by this moment doesn’t change the fact that this moment isn’t actually Luke’s true failure. Luke’s actual fall is that he is so horrified by how close he came to killing his nephew, so appalled by how precariously he teetered right on the edge of the darkness he thought he’d conquered that he retreats, shuts down, shuts himself off from the force, and falls into self-doubt so complete it practically is despair. It is despair. That is Luke Skywalker’s fall- not the fact that he was so horrified by a vision of personal destruction and loss that violence and anger gripped him and urged him to fight back but then ultimately had the strength and the virtue to pull himself back from the edge of that darkness, but the fact that he never allowed that falling into darkness is human. His fall is believing that a moment of darkness that he didn’t and ultimately never intended to act on was as bad as actually committing the crime itself, that it was a fall and corresponding chain of events for which he was wholly responsible. Luke tries to take on responsibility and guilt that isn’t his, and because he tries to do that he cannot bear the weight of it. It is not his guilt to carry and so of course he cannot bear it. He gives up and retreats. He believes he is the monster that he never actually was.
And the thing that kills me about this whole thing and that I think is brilliant and heartbreaking and frustrating all at once is that the response from (a fairly loud subsection of) the audience to Luke’s arc demonstrates that it is completely reasonable and in character for Luke to fall into this trap of hating himself and doubting himself on the most fundamental level. It is the very fact that so many readings of this movie took Luke’s lightsaber moment with Ben as his tragic flaw- and loudly proclaimed it was out of character because Luke would never!!- that reveals exactly why Luke actually fell into such despair and self-doubt. Luke and the audience make the same mistake. Luke knows how “out of character” this moment of darkness was, so out of character that he cannot even bring himself to believe that he didn’t actually do it (even though he didn’t actually do it!). A man who kills his nephew in his sleep is so far from the man Luke Skywalker believed himself to be that the horror of coming so close to becoming that man rocked him to his very foundation. The reaction to Luke’s arc for many star wars fans was the impassioned conviction that it had ruined Luke’s character because it ignored and betrayed the very thing that Luke Skywalker would never do. But the arc doesn’t ignore this fact; it is built on it. It rests solidly on the foundation of what Luke would never do and it is that very reality which catapults Luke into his actual and tragic failure in this movie- the failure to forgive and trust himself for experiencing- and briefly but not ultimately giving into true and powerful temptation.
There is a reason that Luke’s reintegration with the Force and with his family, the restoration of his self-confidence and his hope takes the entire movie. Every cry that Rian Johnson committed character assassination and ruined countless childhoods brilliantly illuminates why. If large sections of the audience cannot watch Luke Skywalker contemplate a wicked act for “the briefest of moments” without being overcome with a horror so strong it doesn’t even let them see the moment where the darkness passes and the light and goodness triumph, why would the man himself be able to? Why would his confrontation with the darkness and the knowledge that he was a flicker away from falling into the abyss- coupled with the fact that he had to watch the consequences of a crime he did not commit play out anyway- not shake him to his core and destroy him so completely that he can’t help but convince himself that he did in fact do the thing he would never do? For every cry of “Luke Skywalker would never!” Luke himself had to face that same reality and when he realized that he almost did the thing he would never do, of course he broke down and wondered “If Luke Skywalker would never, then who am I now? Because I almost did.”
I lived far from my family for seven years. I got married during that time, and my son was born shortly thereafter. I would never have used the word at the time, but my husband abused me from day one. He belittled me, isolated me from family and friends, forbade me from leaving the house, and took away my control of my own finances.
He was an alcoholic and would shout at me for suggesting he address the problem. I felt unsafe, small, and powerless every day. I witnessed him physically and verbally assault children in our family. I thought that because he was not hitting me, he was not abusing me — but he was.
In 2015, I returned to my home town with my toddler son to find work here, expecting to bring my husband with me soon after my arrival. As we spent more time apart, I began to realize how much better my life was without him, and was shocked when people I met liked me. Regardless, I was convinced that we had just been having a rough patch and that I needed to toughen up.
During our marriage, my husband was personally offended if I ever wanted to have an appointment to be tested for STDs, despite the fact that I was almost certain he was having sex with other women. When I came home, I decided to make an appointment for the STD testing that I had been forbidden from getting. I went to the only place I knew I could go hassle free: Planned Parenthood.
At my appointment the nurse asked, “Do you feel safe at home?”
I burst into tears on the spot. I realized that I DID feel safe at home — for the first time in years. The thought of him joining me and my son filled me with dread and fear.
The nurse asked me what was going on, and listened to what I had to say. She encouraged me to get help, and to find a good therapist. She took me seriously, which nobody else had done. She made me realize that my experience was real, my feelings were real, and the abuse that I experienced was real. Now, two and a half years later, I am divorced, and am dealing with the PTSD that I was diagnosed with shortly after that appointment.
The emotional and verbal abuse that Lizzie experienced is a form of domestic violence (sometimes called intimate partner violence). Sexual and reproductive control, like preventing someone from getting health care, is also a form of domestic violence. Sexual and reproductive control includes things like:
preventing you from getting health care, like STD tests
forcing your partner to have sex, or do something they don’t want to do sexually
threatening to break up with someone if they don’t have sex with you
refusing to wear a condom, or pressuring your partner not to use one
hiding or throwing out birth control
taking off or purposely breaking condoms (AKA stealthing)
lying about using birth control
threatening a partner who doesn’t want to get pregnant
forcing a partner to have an abortion when they don’t want to
forcing a partner to carry a pregnancy to term when they want to have an abortion
All of these actions prevent you from making decisions about your own body — and all of them are abusive behaviors.
If you’ve experienced sexual or reproductive control in your relationship, or any other kind of abuse, you’re not alone, and there’s help available. You can contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline, or if you’re a teen, check out Love Is Respect. Or, like Lizzie, your local Planned Parenthood health center may be able to help you find the best resources for you in your area. Planned Parenthood health centers also offer birth control methods that are private, like the implant and shot, as well as STD and pregnancy testing.
If you’re worried about someone in your life who may be in an abusive or unhealthy relationship, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is also a great resource to help you figure out how to help.
Hypervigilance can cause fatigue guys. PTSD can cause fatigue, anxiety and depression can cause fatigue, Bipolar can cause fatigue, any and all mental illnesses can.
Please understand if youre mentally ill and physically or emotionally fatigued, that is not you being lazy! It is your body and brain being tired of fighting your illness! You are tired because youve been fighting.
This struggle you are going through is real, please do not let yourself or anyone invalidate you further by saying youre lazy.
“Well,” Seth muttered, suddenly interested in a loose nail on his finger, “Depends. How do you feel about a date with me this Friday night?” He questioned, nonchalantly.
Kyosuke actually looked up from what he was doing, arching a brow. “You’ve been using lame pick up lines on me for two and a half months and you could have just asked me that?” he laughed a little. “What kind of movie are you thinking?”