This is your reminder that if someone uses the words “that was a test/I was testing you/you passed” in reference to their weird behavior or to brush off a fight you had with them?
That’s a red flag.
RUN THE OTHER WAY.
If they do something that makes you angry and you react accordingly and they tell you “I was testing you to see how’d you react” they are PURPOSEFULLY baiting you.
If they allow you to think something awful is happening (usually like they are cheating) and you blow up about it and they say “I was checking to see if you are jealous” they are PURPOSEFULLY trying to push your buttons.
If they invade your privacy (checking your phone, sneaking on your computer) and say “I was testing you, you passed, there’s nothing on your phone” when you catch them, they are PURPOSEFULLY going out of their way to find something to pick a fight.
Healthy relationships do not involve partners that manufacture “tests” to check the other partners commitment.
Healthy relationships do not include pushing the other to the edge just to see what they will do.
Healthy relationships DO NOT INCLUDE excusing terrible behavior by saying “I was testing to see if you loved me”
Labeling actions as “this was me forcing you to prove you feel (this way) by making sure you will act the way I think you should” is manipulative at best and can very easy turn abusive in about a million different ways.
Fail their test. Walk away. Leave them to their toxicity.
It’s not worth it.
“Pop quizzes” are for school, not for relationships.
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